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Remember T?
Her daughter, Mini-T was my son's girlfriend from age 8 to 9.
Yes, I know, he was 8. But don't you remember those boyfriend/girlfriend relationships? "Mike is going with Karen, do you want to go with me?" "Sure" you said, and then when Kyle asked you to "Go with" him the next day, you then broke up with your other boyfriend. Harmless. Part of our culture. And parents knew nothing about it, or if they did, you denied it vehemently.
When J2 came home with his brother trailing, "J2 has a girlfriend! He loves Mini-T", J2 didn't deny it. He just smiled.
When we went anywhere, he bought something for her. He once bought her a pair of beautiful little earrings in an overpriced museum shop ( we're in a dinosaur museum and he's shopping for his girl) for her birthday. She didn't have pierced ears. She does now. Her family moved her piercing rule up two years for those earrings.
Our families enjoyed spending time together.
We thought their devotion was unique.
And then came New Girl.
New Girl upset everything. She played football. And Mini T was dropped like an unwanted penny in a Trick or Treat bag.
She was crushed. Her family was crushed. (She took her revenge when a gang of kids had him on the ground, she put her foot print on his back--I joke now, but I was NOT happy when it happened and we had family-to-family conferences).
We slowly re-introduced the two of them to family activities. They stayed on opposite ends of the parties and BBQ's. It was sad.
This summer a local Church hosted a Holiday Club. The ex-sweethearts both attended. One day I got news that she had gone home and flung herself on the bed and cried because J2 had laughed when she got up to receive an award.
Son and I had a heart to heart about hurting someone's feelings. I told him how hurt she's been and how his laughing amplified that pain.
something happened
They began talking when we were together.
They stopped reacting as if the other had leprosy.
And one day... the last day of the holiday club, they did this....
I took 6 pictures of them laughing side by side.J2 still plays with New Girl. He talks fondly of the French Student his school hosted for two days, but he and Mini-T are comfortable again.
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Ah, those were the days....
I hate all that drama. Why can't people just get along? Glad they are now, though.
Petty quarrels.. so sweet!
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I LOVe this story..reminds me what I will be going through (not that part) and that I am done with that portion of my life!! So good it turned out well and if I need a good take down hook me up with mini-T..JK..Isn't time such a good healer?!! Great "Happy" picture.
It's so scary to me how fast these things become an issue in their lives. Glad that they worked it out - way to handle it calmly, mom!! Sorry I've been a little MIA...vacation is tough on the blog reading.
A fabulous PSF! It's like the ending of a great movie! Glad to see they worked it out!
All is well that ends well!!! Good ending!
So young to be learning all those lessons. I guess it is good though. Better at 8 then at 16 when hormones are out of control.
I don't know why this post makes me so misty-eyed. Something about innocence, youth, growing, learning, heartache, pain, and the pure emotion. Ugh.
Such a sweet post.
And WOW. That boy of yours sure is a cutie!!!
Oh. So glad to see they're talking again. You're such a good mom.
I'm glad that they were able to work things out a bit. Teen angst is hard, huh?
oh, this is sort of sad - I feel so bad - grwoing up is soo hard -why does it have to be sod hard?????
that's pretty funny. i hate it when my hubs starts teasing my oldest about girls (you know--in that sing-song voice that is just soooo annoying!) i don't think that little boys need any encourgament when it comes to girls (their hormones will figure it out fast enough for them...)
but very cute and 9 is a lot older than my sons 5...way to go! :)
It is so hard to be that age and experiencing the change in relationships. Sounds like your children have great support of both families to get through it! Glad they are on the upswing. It is really teaching them about relationships, isn't it?
OMG that's so adorable! Glad things are happy again...we haven't gone through at my house yet but I know it's coming.
So sweet. Even at this young age the relationships are an important part of growing up. They do look pretty cute together too.
Dude, I just totally fear this stage.
And daaaaang it if they aren't just so stinking adorable!! This phase is SO awkward, no?
I am so not ready for this stuff. With my girls or Isaac. Sounds like you handled it well...it also sounds like the makings of a perfect YA novel.
I'm glad the end (thus far, anyway)is a good one. :)
Brilliant! I would so hate to have to experience all those emotions of that era, all over again.
Very good post!
Looky you being all Halloweeny festive. Beltaine, right? Or Samhaign? One of the two.
You never know how the relationship will turn out, right? If you'd told me I really would end up married to Puppy, I would've laughed my arse off at you.
CRAP. That was me. Dadnabbit.
Can you tell I'm about to have a lawsuit against my builder in the works? HEADACHE!
Ah...family to family conferences.
Yeah. I remember those.
Nice to everything's working out.
Isn't it amazing how much drama it all is. Even now there are still times when I feel like that.
Oy! I am not looking forward to these things. My daughter is already getting crushes, we've told her she can't have a boyfriend til she's 32, but you know kids-they never listen.
I'm glad they're friends again. So sweet.
Aw..so nice the fences have been mended. Those times are traumatic to those involved. I love the picture at the end. :)
Adorable picture. I'm glad to hear that things have improved. Oh how I look forward to mine growing up (note: sarcasm). ;)
I'm STILL uncomfortable with the "boyfriend" I had in 1st and 2nd grade. I'm glad I see him maybe once every 10 or 15 years. This story is much better!
i feel all awkward and gangly just thinking about all that young love and angst
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