So I'm still spitting nails, but new reason. This seems to be my December theme:
Rage at the world.
Let's say you have a son. Say your son is a smarty-pants-- maybe that term is an understatement. Say your son lives to be in the spotlight and could be considered a clown.
Let's go as far to say that people either love your son or hate him.
You choose to love him, but secretly, deep down have dreams of duct-taping his mouth until he reaches adulthood.
Now, said Son would probably just draw trouble to him I would suppose. What if one day he just pushes one kid on the bus too far and that kid cold cocks him as he's getting off the bus, sending blood flying out of son's nose and all over his school uniform?
Your Hubby might go to speak to the other kids' parents, wouldn't he?
And since your Hubby is so mild mannered, he goes over there perfectly aware that chances are good HIS own kid probably deserved the punch, but even so should be discussed.
Poor aggravated kid from the bus is probably aggravated because he comes from the epitome of a white trash home, so the father spews obscenities and threatens to whomp on your Hubby. Unfortunately he has to do with his neck craned back since the Hubby is so much bigger than him.
Maybe his equally trashy wife starts screaming obscenities as well. Chances are, your mild mannered Hubby is just going to turn around and go home since these people are Neanderthals and can't carry on a rational discussion.
Here's where the anger part comes in.
The next day at school, your son's "Form Teacher" (head of his school year) pulls him out of class, embarrasses him and asks him to explain himself about an incident that happened on a friday evening, OFF SCHOOL GROUNDS and when son explains, she says "I don't believe you, you are lying". She then pulls the witnesses out of class and when they ALL confirm that your son was NOT at fault, she drops it. NEVER apologizing.
Say you choose to let it slide. Because you're like that. You pick your battles.
Oh, but that son can draw trouble...
Imagine that yesterday your clown-boy comes home with reports that "kicking girl" (so named because she has kicked him every day since she moved here a year and a half ago) spit on him.
I imagine you probably are a little bit of a germaphobe and went ballistic.
I'm just guessing, because I myself would never act that way.
Maybe you calmed down enough to send a letter stating that the abuse your child has been receiving could be considered school yard bullying (huge emphasis on Anti-bullying here) which is bad enough but now that the bully has resorted to spitting, you are not going to tolerate it. You may have asked for a meeting with the Kicking Girl and her parents. You may have threatened further action if this was not seriously considered.
You might end up being in serious need of therapy and therefore begin ranting on your blog when your beloved, perfect, little smarty-trousers son comes home with a report that he was once again pulled out of class to face a crying Kicking Girl and Form Teacher asking what his side of the story was and THEN accusing him of lying about it-- not only to the Form Teacher, but to the Mother (you) that wrote the letter. With testimonies of ALL his classmates that Kicking Girl does indeed kick daily and did most certainly spit on him as they watched.
I'm thinking you're probably pretty wound up right now.
Hypothetically speaking of course-- this all only IF you have a son, who thinks he's funnier than he really is with a Form Teacher who could teach "Ways to Warp a Child's Esteem for Life 101".

Sounds like you have a son who attracts people of undesirable qualities. I'm so glad you were able to be so upstanding about the incidents! What a mom!
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking that a certain Form Teacher needs to be reported. And taught the phrase "I'm sorry."
ReplyDeleteI agree with Karen. apparently your schools don't take violence seriously. Out here where kids shoot each other none of this is tolerated not even for a minute. Aside from that said smarty pants son needs to learn how to have much pleasanter social interactions. there is more to life than wise cracks.
ReplyDeleteI'm speechless. I mean, not really. :) I'm with Karen on reporting the Form Teacher, though it sounds as though she's not in a position to answer too much higher than herself? Find out who to go to.
ReplyDeleteOh.my.gosh! Yeah my mouth is hanging open over several points in that hypothetical situation.
ReplyDeleteThat's what they make guns for. Ooops.. I mean lawyers.
ReplyDeleteI feel your frustration even though this is one of the funniest posts I've ever read in my long long lifetime. Consider the source/s. However, defending your son in this bizarre climate only makes you look like the mom who doesn't believe her son can do no wrong. It's the whole "Methinks thou protest too much" thing. But I wouldn't stop if I were you. I'd drive the point home no matter what. And I'd do a little kicking myself.
Good luck with all this. Let me know if my sister's brother-in-law, Guido, may be of any service to you.
♥ Casa Hice
UGH I hate teachers like this. That teacher needs to be reported and fired, and I hope you do speak with kicking girl's parents - how unacceptable. And what a lack of class, to accuse students in such a way! GRR from me!
ReplyDeleteDoes said Form Teacher have a superior? That's my next phone call.
ReplyDeleteHypothetically, I would call a meeting with the Form teacher and give her examples of spitting, kicking, and hitting. Hypythetically. Then I would call her a LIAR when she asked me to stop said, spitting and kicking. Hypothetically, that is what I would like to do. But I'm a hot head.
ReplyDeleteYou've gone and gotten me all riled up again.
I would be all spider monkey on someone by now. Hypothetically speaking, you have much more self-control than I would.
ReplyDeleteoh I would spewing hell fire and brimstone down upon them... theoretically speaking of course.
ReplyDeleteThat form teachers sounds like a complete *&^&^$@^(*%^&@*&#. grrrr.
See when it comes to my kids I may be a tad bit overprotective...so I am very proud of how you handled it....I would probably open a can of whoop ass on the teacher...(what the heck is a form teacher anyhow) then i would scare the crap out of the little spitter...that disgusts me...makes me wanna barf...but good for you
ReplyDeleteHypothetical nothing! I would be ALL over that form teacher's a55!
ReplyDeleteHow could it be that a woman like that can be in a position of authority over children? Is there a school board you can appeal to? This is the most absurd behavior I've heard of concerning a student. It makes my blood boil & I guarantee that they would all hear plenty from me.
ReplyDeleteJeri, there is no one else (apparently) who will stand up for your son, so you need to start spitting nails! You just go over to that school and give them a strong piece of your mind. If it's happening with your son, then it's happening to other kids too, I assure you. There is no way that he's the only victim.
And yes, this IS bullying! From the so-called Form Teacher, whatever worthless job that is, and from the other two children. I'd be spitting staples out of an electric staple gun instead of nails!!!
Argh! This whole thing makes me so mad. Be sure & tell those school board idiots that her behavior is the stuff serial killers are made of. That might yank there heads to attention. Morons.
Then again, you just can't change ignorance & stupidity...
Go see the head and explain that you are not happy that your son is being accused of being a liar by the Form Tutor, if you have no joy and nothing is done you then say you will write to the Chair of Governors and the LEA. They will listen.
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