Karen over at The Rocking Pony got me thinking with her current post (the Joke is on Me). Her 5th grader son is reeling in older women (if you saw his beautiful little face, you'd know how).
I let her in on a little secret.
I'm older than my husband.
I know, there are lots of people older than their spouse, but let's put this in perspective, shall we?
This was my Husband in 1982
and this was me in the same year...
Ignore the sweater, what was I thinking?I have to wonder if when we had a serendipitous encounter if it's because his dad and I were at the same party out in the desert. Or maybe his mom was one of the girls I bumped into at the mall.
YIKES.
Our first date was at a Thai restaurant. We worked together and had spent a lot of time talking and getting to know each other, but our very first date was dinner. When the check came, he said, "Wow, great year".
Cluelessly I asked, "Why?"
"It's the year I was born". That number wasn't 196_(any number).
I think I choked.
In my defense, he's an old guy (computers will do that to you, as will 5 kids), who grew up on the same music I listened to. We have the same values, same views on politics and rearing children. There's not many times when we feel the age difference. When our children feel the need to point out that I'm older than he is "by ___ years!", most people are shocked to know that we have such a gap in our age (it helps if you act like the spoiled child like I do).
My questions for you: Are you older/younger than your significant other? How would you react to your son or daughter coming home with someone not quite their own age?
You know that nobody would know that if you didn't tell them. Not that he looks old - you look that young!
ReplyDeletei am 3 yrs older than my husband. he likes to remind me of that fact a LOT...
ReplyDeleteI am younger than my husband by 2 years. I have dated a couple older men in the end the age diffrence was an issue. I hope my kids end up with someone they love and makes them happy whether they be older or younger.
ReplyDeletegreat post!! I am younger than my husband by 5 years. But my first husband was younger than me, by two years.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is 3 years older than me, but, funnily enough, most of my previous boyfriends were a few years younger!
ReplyDeleteI'm older than my husband by 6 years!
ReplyDeleteYeah, um... when I was graduating high school, he was in the 6th grade.
It's so strange to think about sometimes. People that meet us though have no clue there's an age difference. I'll be 40 this year and he just turned 34. =) Get 'em when they're young and train them right. LOL! There are fewer bad habits to break that way. =)
My hubby is 7 yrs older than me, but I have always acted/felt maturer than my age and he acts like a big kid so it doesn't seem like that big of a difference to us. He was a senior when I was in the 5th grader! It has helped us be more understanding with his daughter who is in 9th grade dating an 11th grader.
ReplyDeleteI really liked your post.
I'm a year younger than my husband. I don't think the age difference between couples is anyone's business but their own. If two people are happy together, that is all that matters. I do think it is important to have similar values and things of interest between them. In some cases that works better when they are similar in age, but not always. If it works, don't fix it! :D
ReplyDeleteI'm only 8 months older than the Hunny, but have recently met two couples in your boat. One wife is a full 10 years her husband's senior (34 and 24), and the other about the same, though they have about 20 years on the first couple. But when it clicks, it clicks!
ReplyDeleteYou. Go. Girl. I am 7 years younger than mine, but I have never thought about age differences. Everyone has a unique maturity level. And that's all I'm gonna say;)
ReplyDeleteWe have a three year difference between us and it's not an issue most days. Until we start talking about pop culture. Because those three years mean I wasn't aware during the early 70's and I missed some things.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, you look so young! I never would have guessed. What is your secret? You could get big money for that. Maybe you could come up with a product that I can debunk on my blog. :)
My husband is 5 months older than I am, but because I started school very young, I was 'ahead' of him in college. In that regard, I sort of 'felt' older, an upperclass-woman dating a underclassman. But I have to say, he was FAR more mature and focused than some of the 'older' guys I dated.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it would bother me if my kiddos dated someone of a different age, as long as laws were followed and the person didn't seem to have a scary history--that said, it might feel quite different in practicum! ;o)
Blessings!
great food for though. i dated a few guys that were younger than me (by a few years) and my parents never had a problem with it. and my husband is four months younger than me...so not seriously a age gap---i think that it imore acceptable for guys to date younger girls, but eye brows kind of raise when a girl dates a younger guy (i know that i got it with some of my peers at the Institute...)
ReplyDeletei'm really curious what the differenve is b/twn you and your hubby----hmmmmmmm
This post made me chuckle..love the photos too.
ReplyDeleteI almost chocked when I found out my love is closer to my baby brother's age than mine!!! He was in the same school year as my brother!!!
I think it has totally worked out... but I remember back in the early 80's a group of friends and I went to a camp ground to see if we could hook up with some Rangers...and found most were young Boy scouts and not Rangers! way too young...a few years go I came across program and badges my hubby was keeping...all from the jamboree...we laughed about it - he had a great time there - it was in the city I grew up in - and he had travelled across the country to attend...perhaps we had meet before we did in 2000!!!
Harley Guy is 3 years older than me. But, Monkey Girl's dad was 18 years older than me. Yes, EIGHTEEN. I was a mature 24 year old when I met him and he must've been a pervy 42 year old. LOL Just kidding, he's not a perv.
ReplyDeleteBut when it clicks, it clicks... obviously that one didn't last but our age difference had nothing to do with it. His in and out of mental institutions battling severe depression and anxiety DID.
My mother is 6 years older than my Dad. And I have never heard him remind her of that once. I think that's true love.
I am a year older than my hubby. Not too much of a difference there--I actually sometimes forget because he's a lot more mature than me! I wouldn't mind if my son/daughter came home with older/younger. As long as they're not 18 and the other is like 80 then I'm ok with it!
ReplyDeleteYou're tease for not telling us how much older than him you really are!
ReplyDeleteSince I'm single, this is a topic that me and my friends talk about a lot. I'd totally go for an older guy, but a younger guy? Well, I'd like to wait a little bit longer for that.
10 1/2 years. That's the age difference between my husband and I. He's older. My parents about died when they found out their barely 19-year-old daughter was going out with a 29 1/2-year-old man.
ReplyDeleteAge hasn't been a big deal ever except for just before he turned 40 last year. Suddenly the difference between 29 and 40 seemed huge. I gave him a hard time for a while telling him he was an old geezer, but as soon as the birthday went by we were back to normal. He didn't let me get away with too much complaining when I turned 30, though. :)
My hubby is two years older than me. I have been attracted to guys who were a few years younger than me, but usually that's because of some quality they posess, not their age. So, I'm not sure it would be an issue for me. If my daughters wanted to date younger guys, I don't think I'd mind, as long as it's not, you know freakish or illegal. Thank goodness, they're both quite a few years away from that being an issue though. I think I would probably be more concerned about them dating older guys.
ReplyDeleteMorgan is nine months older than I am, which he gets a kick out of (I was conceived when he was born).
ReplyDeleteYou and the Hubby are a great match -- perfect for each other. I don't think I will care one way or the other about age if my kids bring home people they are as happy with as you two are.
found u thru SITS...and i have to admit, i'm 5 years older than my hubby too. i'm a 196_ girl while he made it in to the 70's birth years. well, i say he keeps me young...super fun pics.
ReplyDeletemy dad is 11 years older than my mom. when he was in the army, my mom was in 4th grade. we love to tease them, but like flea said, when it clicks it clicks!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, you could NEVER EVER tell that you were older my friend. I'm a few months younger than my hubby (physically) but lightyears older (mentally). I know, aren't we all? :)
ReplyDeleteI am older...by two months...and Hubby thinks that is great. He and I graduated from two different schools, but in the same year. I often wonder if we might have gone to the same football game -- one we talk about from time to time. We might have even bumped elbows...never knowing we'd be together someday. Weird, huh?
ReplyDeleteI must say..I ROBBED the cradle...Now my girls?? Can't even think about it...!!
ReplyDeleteTee hee! I'm 1.5 years older. It seemed like a lot when we were dating, but I don't even think about it anymore. Except every year on my birthday when I turn two years older than him.
ReplyDeleteAwesome. I love the fact he is younger. Good for you. He can carry you around when you are old!
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting my blog. You're a fellow Twilighter! My husband is working on the movie currently, so I'm trying to squeeze as much inside info as I can from him. ;)
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm older than my husband too!
I love that it wasn't 196 anything ha. I am 3 years older than my hubby. Sometimes I feel ten years older.
ReplyDeleteAge, race, gender - I've no problem with any of it. I kinda hope whoever comes home at least pulls their pants up over their butt cracks, but I do suppose even that is negotiable on the point of happiness and respect.
ReplyDeleteI'm older by 2 years.
You, my dear, are gorgeous, now and then!
I, too, am the older, by 4 years...and, yes, he LOVES to rub that in.
ReplyDeleteAs for my children...they'd better NOT be bringing ANYONE home for a LONG, LONG, LONG time. EVEN the 14-year-old...AT LEAST 6 more years. At least. By that point, I *hope* I'll be prepared to deal with my little girl growing up. In the mean time, age differences aren't the big as they're older...it's the high school/college age differences in maturity that concern me....
When my father-in-law found out that Mac was 8 years older than me, he told him that cradle robbing was not something to be proud of, lol...I don't know, I was such a spoiled brat that I needed someone older to reel me in! I loved this post, you are so (Honest to God I wasn't going to say mature) funny
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Sandi
My hubby is 7 1/2 years older. Ya, I even added the extra 6 months. I want to stay as young as possible. Oh, I usually tell people I'm an extra 6 full years younger than I am, so that would make him 13 1/2 years older in my imaginary world. I like it that way.
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm a little less than a year older than my wife. But she's eons older than me, when it come to maturity.
ReplyDeleteShe has a brother and a sister, are both married to spouses, who are, substantially older than they are (I would be willing to bet that they have you beat, by a decent margin). While it was a little awkward at the very beginning (it wasn't really the age, but the way it all came about), things are totally fine now. We love them just like everyone else.
I can't say that if it were one of my kids, that I wouldn't take a double take at first, but I would trust my kids to know their heart, and what would make them happy.
Wow, I hadn't intended to be so wordy.
Well, if that is true than you look much younger than you are. I was thinking you were going to say that you were much younger than he. So there!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby and I are 5 years apart. I don't think that is a big age difference at all since we met when I was 22 and he was 27. I think the maturity level was about the same then. Ha!
My mom and dad, both sets of my grandparents and Todd's folks are all 8 years apart from their spouse. Isn't that odd? Must be something with the number 8 in this family. ;)
I am 3 years old than the husband.Like another who commented here he also likes to remind me of that fact.
ReplyDeleteAs far as my kids bringing home somone not quite their age...I don't know I have 2 girls so it is hard telling how I would react if the guys were older then my girls.
I'm with Karen. You do look THAT young. You are an adorable couple!!
ReplyDeleteJon and I are only about 6 months apart and he's older.
Who knew? Who cares? Love is not only blind, but ageless. Gary is 9 months older than I, almost to the day. I laughed when I found out and said, "Guess the Lord finished with you and started making me!" -- "It's not good for man to be alone," He says in Genesis and our Pastor quoted at our wedding.
ReplyDeleteDon't count the years, count the moments with joy.
I hope my children find true love like we did/do, regardless of the time clock issues.
You always make me smile. : )
Older, by 16 months. But I LOOK younger. And act younger, come to think of it.
ReplyDeletehi awesome jeri,
ReplyDeletewhat? so he is 2 years younger than you? hehe. what does it matter? you guys fill gaps. you guys work together :)
happy for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!
(my hubby is 6 1/2 years older than me and it makes no difference. he should be younger than me. he is falling apart!! hehehe.)
night night, kathleen
Good question girl!
ReplyDeleteI can't accept it. I tried with a guy one year younger than me...I just can't!
if my boy comes home with an older woman, I'll probably tell him how I feel, but I won't start to put poison in the food when she comes over for dinner... *laugh*
how did your parents react? I wonder? Or maybe I'm too old-fashioned...
My husband is more than 5 years older than me, but... he's the first person I've ever dated or had any relationship with that was not younger than me. I always thought it would be better to marry a younger man because their lives are shorter, then you wouldn't have to live alone as long. But most men mature so NOT quickly that it makes it tough.
ReplyDeleteThe older you get, the less age matters, and if you have a good match, age doesn't matter AT ALL!
My hubby is three months older than I am, but he acts waaaay older. Of course, that probably has a lot to do with maturity (or immaturity, as it were).
ReplyDeleteMen age faster mentally than women do, on the whole. So, it's my belief that you did the right thing. Besides, you look younger than you are, which is one of the perks of having young children when you're older, lol.
Holy heck, hon! I'm number 44? You rock the comments!
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to pay attention to this and not sing along (also a song post went up w/you in mind) with the music.
I think I wouldn't have a problem with a difference if it happened later on...like 18 and 27...but there's no way I'd let my 15 year old with a 24 year old - if that makes sense. My BFF's hubby is 11 years older.
Puppy's 1 year older than me.
I'm the younger one in our relationship...by 9 years. ;) We have a good laugh when we think that when he was graduating high school I was in 2nd grade. EEK!
ReplyDeleteMy husband had grey hair when we married and from a distance people used to think that he was an old man with a young wife. I am younger than him but only two years.
ReplyDeleteI'm only a year older than BD bt my best friend in college married the brother of the boy she babysat for. He's eight years younger than her. When they started dating, he was 15 and didn't have his license and she had just graduated from college!
ReplyDeletemy hubby is nine years old than me, and when we first starting dating (i had just turned 20, he was about to turn 29) we loved to play the "where were you when" game... like... where were you when Challenger blew up (me: 6th grade homeroom, him: college dorm) I also am very clear about the fact that had we been in college at the same time I SO would not have dated him... he was way too wild for me (yes, my husband, the pastor)
ReplyDeleteTwo comments for the price of one : First, the sweater is delightful - its pure Lady Di (I still have mine, and that's REALLY sad). Second, my husband, whose birthday it is today is nine years younger than I am, and there are plenty of upsides, as you can imagine. The only downside is (and I'm only admitting this in the relative anonymity of Cyberspace) that sometimes I have to hide how tired I feel in case he realises how much older I am than him...
ReplyDeleteI have no problems with an older woman/younger man. Good for YOU! I'm 4 yrs. youngers, but my 6th grader is being pursued by an 8th grade hussy. That, I don't approve of....LOL!
ReplyDeleteMy husband is 11 days older than me. My brother just married a woman 20 years older than him, which makes her older than my mom. They are totally happy. :)
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ReplyDeleteBrian is 6 years and 20 days older than me! He is 26 and I'm 20. I LOVE that he's that much older than me. It just FITS, ya know? He's ready to settle down and I'm ready to start living life (outside of college that is). I would have been okay if he was even 10 years older. We are a great match-- that's all that matters in my opinion!
ReplyDeleteSorry-- my comment got left 3 times lol, so I deleted the first two!
ReplyDeleteCute post... but you'd never know you were older.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first met hubby I thought he was younger than I was...turns out he's 3 years older!!! He was a skinny thing back in the 80s... he laughs whenever I tell him he finally grew into his face LOL!
Ack, it's just a number, isn't it?
Sweetheart is four years older.
ReplyDeleteYou are gorgeous, by the way!
Hi...I'm 1year and eleven months older than JP. He was nineteen when we met and I was almost twenty one.
ReplyDeleteHe was GORGEOUS.Thick black curly hair, wide shoulders and slim hips.Now his hair is still curly but it only grows around the back of his head and his hips are hidden by his tummy. Needless to say I have changed too but in fifty years he has never caught up, thank heavens.
Thankyou for joning my followers, I'm off to join yours.
five years. He's five years older than me. I dated a guy that was five years older than me once. Only I was 16 -he was 21. My Dad didn't care for him AT ALL. But he loves my husband. Probably because my husband waited until I was legal to date me.
ReplyDeleteOur paths did cross earlier on. I was raised in the same small town that his grandpa just happened to live in. His grandpa was in my ward (and is still to this day my Dad's home teaching companion) And then his grandpa's son went on a mission. My husband came to his farewell. He was 20. I was 15. Good thing we didn't get introduced. I just sat and gawked at the hot guy singing a special musical number. :) Four years later, I married him. Four years (and two kids) after that... brings us to today.
I still like to mention our age difference to make him squirm.
"Oh, look at those High School senior boys. So much life ahead of them..."
"Yeah."
"I wonder if they're checking out the eighth graders..."