PSF Momma's Boy

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J1's dad stepped out of our lives when I was only 5 months pregnant. The story is too long as to why or who was at fault, but believe me, it took two to destroy that relationship-- not three as sometimes a child will try to believe.

When our son was 7, Deadbeat cautiously became Dad, although it was from a distance and with a new wife at his side. Being from a very small town, I heard every doubt, criticism and frustration J1's dad and his wife muttered, but the one that stands out in my mind was, "I don't believe Deadbeat's really his father-- he's NOTHING like Db", meaning that my son who had grown up in a single parent home didn't act like his father. Db hunted. He lived for being drawn in any hunt lottery. He had thousands of dollars worth of guns and the sportiest vehicles to carry them in.
In contrast, I was scraping by. There was one low point when we didn't have enough money for toilet paper, so my bathroom was stocked with those little purse-packs of tissue that places gave away. Me and the little guy read. a lot. The library was our outings. We spent time together laughing, singing and acting out movie roles. We went to school theatrical performances (cheaper).

When my university degree was nearly finished. I splurged one Christmas to take J1 to see Phantom of the Opera. He was enamoured and vowed to be on a stage like that one day. That's where the ugly comment came from. J1 was too "artsy" to really have come from his dad. (!)

13 years later, Deadbeat's guns have been stolen and he works long hours. I think he leases his vehicles now.

J1 has developed my eye for beauty around him. He loves taking pictures. While he was here, that was the primary thing we did together. We drove through the countryside talking and stopping on a dime to catch the right light hitting farmland.



We traipsed all over London at night so that he could get a panoramic shot of the London Eye and Parliament.



I will treasure that time and I took plenty of shots of him taking photos to keep it fresh in my mind.